I was lucky enough to be invited into a little Instagram message group of awesome women who support each other and like/comment on each other's content consistently. It's nice to have a group of people that support you and that are also there for a bit of constructive critisim. The other day, one of us was given grief about doing a sponsored post with a large company. She was told by another woman (in a nutshell) that she is a sell out, and how dare she choose to work with a big corperation.
While people are entitled to their opinion, I felt that this was a little harsh. It bothered my Insta buddies a little bit too. No matter how many positive comments or messages we receive, it's always the one negative comment that really sticks with us. The thing that bothered me the most was the private-account-holding commenter (they always hide behind the private accounts don't they) was a woman. I feel like, as women, we are far too quick to judge each other instead of supporting each other and our endeavors.
I'm not sure what drives all the women vs. women hostility, whether it's jealousy or some personal grudge, I just feel like enough is enough. We get enough grief in other ways. So why should we have to guard ourselves against one another? There needs to be a little more love and a little less judgment.
It may look like people creating sponsored content have it easy but it takes some really hard work to get to that stage! To choose that direction creatively, you need to start price-tagging your work so you can pay your bills -- just like any other artist does. If a company hired a director to create a commercial, would you expect said director to do the work for free? Of course not! Bloggers and Instagrammers are no different. If someone likes your artistic license and believes it would speak well for their brand why would you not expect payment for the time and the effort?
There is a really good magazine that I've been reading called Belong. It's a quarterly digital and print magazine celebrating the art and community of blogging, social media, and entrepeneurship. Their mission statement goes something like this:
"In all that we do, we desire for women to use their passions for a purpose, to inspire women to be authentic, to be life-giving and to encourage one another. We want women to know that they are enough, that they matter, and that they have a place. They belong!"
How perfect is that?! I think it's fantastic that, like my Instagram friends, women are coming together in a community to support each other rather than bring one another down.
Lets all be a bit nicer okay? After all, who runs the world? 😉